This does not work well in the heat of the argument or tantrum. Wait and follow these steps when everyone has cooled off.
Get to the underlying cause.
Is your child being bullied? Or is she too passive with others? Is your child bullying or aggressive with others? Teach your child everyday assertiveness techniques.
If you have tried to engage your child in the positive methods outlined in "HOW TO GET YOUR CHILD TO LISTEN" and the child still didn't listen, then move to consequences.
One of the great tools that gets your child to cooperate
How can we support our child's growth? Too much and we are enabling them. Too little and they give up!
What's best for your child's overall development?